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It’s important to keep in mind that interpretations are central to sexual identities.
Reuben (28): I exercise, play sports, take part in what you’d call stereotypical masculine activities.I found this to be the saddest element of my study: They felt the need to keep their same-sex sexual encounters secret, and often felt great anxiety at the thought of discovery.Regardless of how people identify, it would be ideal to live in a society where people could be open about their sexual encounters so long as they involved safe, healthy and pleasurable sex between consenting adults.”Kevin (69): I’m a husband and a father, and a grandfather, and I consider that a part of a man’s life as bein’ straight.For gay and bisexual men, their sex with men reinforces their gay or bisexual identity.A text chat operator has conversations with paying customers via text messages.Thus, while ‘bud-sex’ and gay hookups may appear similar, the people involved interpret them in completely different ways.
Similar sexual practices carry different meanings across contexts and populations.
I don’t feel any less of a man if I’m bent over and he’s in me, at all. “Going into this study I thought participants might associate being penetrated with femininity or gayness, and penetration with masculinity or straightness, when in fact most did not.
These interpretations of penetration as unrelated to straightness or masculinity reaffirmed their own straightness and masculinity, regardless of what specifically they did.”David (74): I think you’re more socially driven to be straight whether you want to be or not.
So I asked Silva to share with me what his study’s participants told him and offer his explanation as to why they reckoned what they were doing wasn’t gay at all..
Mike (50): I don’t want the effeminate ones, I want the manly guys.
Silva found 19 white, straight-identifying men in rural, socially conservative regions of five Midwestern and Pacific Northwest states (Missouri, Illinois, Oregon, Washington and Idaho) through Craigslist M4M casual encounter ads. They know how to work a chainsaw and clean a dead deer.